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How do you make co-parenting work following the divorce?

On Behalf of | May 23, 2022 | Family Law

Not every divorce is amicable. Sometimes, divorced couples will barely stand the presence of each other without letting emotions get the better of them. However, cutting all ties with your ex is never possible if you have a child together.

Most often, the court will prefer a situation where both parents are actively involved in the child’s affairs. This is known as co-parenting. Of course, co-parenting may seem daunting, especially if the divorce was contentious. However, here are a couple of steps you can take to make it work for everyone.

It should be about the kids. Never forget this

Your relationship with your ex-spouse will change from romantic to strictly parental after the divorce. It is, therefore, important that set your emotions – bitterness, anger and regrets—aside for the sake of your children. This is the first and probably the most important step in developing an effective co-parenting plan. By setting your emotions and feelings aside and focusing on your children, you will avoid unfortunate situations where children get caught up in your differences with your ex.

Communication is key. Take it seriously

Communication is to co-parenting what location is to real estate. Effective communication during co-parenting involves listening to and understanding each other rather than making demands or talking at each other.  Try to avoid overreaction and instead invest in resources that can help you improve your communication skills with your co-parent.

You are a team. Act like one

Teamwork is crucial for the success of any co-parenting effort. This calls for consistency when handling matters that impact your children’s lives. To avoid potential confusion and conflicts, set joint expectations on issues like children’s education, lifestyles and extra-curricular activities. The last thing you want is to give the children an impression that one parent is tough while the other is not.

Parenting under any circumstance is no walk in the park. Find out how to craft an effective co-parenting plan that recognizes the children’s best interests while taking into account both parties’ rights.

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